My brother called me on my 32nd birthday this past Sunday. He was like “do you feel any older?” Without hesitation I said YES because it seemed like the right answer. But quickly I was like “NOPE. Actually – I am healthier and more active than I have been in years. So no, I do not feel older. Oh but I did hurt my ankle running…probably brittle bones…they say that happens. So, no and yes.”
32 is going to be the best yet. I’m sure of it. I know what I want – and thanks for 14 or so years as an adult, I know what I don’t want. (Can I get an amen?)
I read this list recently about “10 things you need to quit doing right now to be happier.” I wish I would have saved it. If you Google this, there are a million lists but none are the exact one that I was reading. So here’s my own summary of the ones I remember.
- Being around negative people
Oh my stars – isn’t this profound. We can’t control who we are around all the time – i.e. at work – but in our personal lives, there is absolutely no reason as adults that we have to put ourselves through relationships (beyond the general courtesies) that don’t enrich our lives. I’ve realized this recently – and have the dearest friends ever because I chose them. Fate, luck, divine intervention, etc. brought us together – but we CHOSE to stay together because we give each other what we need and want. We enjoy it – plain and simple. But from time to time, you encounter people that you just think “yep – not forcing myself through that again.” And guess what, you don’t have to. You’re a grown up. Do what you want. Be around who you want. This is not elementary school and you do not have to play with that brat on the playground.
- Saying yes all the time
I was a yes girl. I used to say yes then figure out how I’d get it done, later. Or commit to something then whine about it until it was over. Well, why the heck did you agree to do it if you’re so tortured about it? The slogan should be, “Just Say No: to drugs and other crap you don’t want to do.” Unless it’s a professional development opportunity, YOUR JOB, school so it will better your long-term future or something like that – just say no if your heart isn’t in it. Again, like above, if it doesn’t give you something back, why give it all of you?
- Choosing things over experience
I feel like this shifts drastically from your early 20’s to 30’s. I would spend my last dime to travel or eat somewhere amazing. But that amazing pair of shoes that cost half my paycheck? Eh, take ‘em or leave ‘em.
- Comparing yourself to others
Lawd, social media is the devil when it comes to this. Because we only see all the sunshine and roses – not all the trips, falls, bumps and bruises. But at some point (late 20’s or early 30’s?) you just have to do you and not try to keep up with the Joneses. It will drive you insane. I’m the guiltiest for posting every fun moment on social media – so this is a work in progress for me. (I think there was a related topic in here somewhere about just living your life instead of documenting every second. Shocker).
Anyways, my point with this is, you really do sort to turn a corner on these things and so much more around 29-something. The best is yet to come – right? Isn’t that what they say? If so, bring it on, 33. (Er…wait. Maybe just let me savor this one a little bit longer).
Thanks to everyone for all of the well-wishes on my extended birthday extravaganza. I felt every one of them and all the love.
Disclaimer – I realize in 5-10 years I’ll look back on this post and realize I still knew nothing about life. That’s just how it goes. 😉